Do you feel invisible around the girl you like? Do you feel that girls don’t
notice no matter what you do? Basically, is it impossible for you to attract a
girl? Fear no more. If you’re trying to get the attention of a special girl,
this article is for you. It’s not at all difficult or complicated to attract
someone if you know what you’re doing. Here are some tricks/tips that you can
use to make the girl like you.
Be Confident
Confidence is a must when it comes to attracting girls. In many cases, it can overcome money and looks! But how can you be confident? By practicing. And while practicing, you might encounter failure. But with each failure you learn and grow and become more confident for the next time. Meet a lot of girls, befriend them, meet girls who share your interests and hobbies. Go out on a lot of dates. Don’t get all dreamy and assume the girl you’re going out with to be “the one” for you. Be sure that if things didn’t go well with one girl, there are many other girls out there who are looking for a guy exactly like YOU.
Look Good
If you want the girl to know that you respect her, you must respect your body first. If you come across as a sloppy bather, a sloppy eater, or a sloppy dresser, then you’re most likely a sloppy lover! Hence, hygiene and style are important aspects. Keep yourself well-groomed and in good shape. Brush your teeth daily, shave and work out regularly etc. Basic cleanliness is extremely important. Make a good first impression with the way you look. Don’t overdo anything, stay fit without being obsessive. This way you’ll be more appealing.
Have Your Own Life
If you’re still in the “friend zone”, this is very important. Girls with self-worth and a strong sense of purpose in their life (REAL girls) don’t prefer guys who don’t have a life of their own, basically, guys who cling to them and don’t give them enough space. Some girls prefer these kind of guys but for wrong reasons – either they’re needy, control freaks or simply insecure about themselves. Unless you want one of those scenarios, stay busy doing what you love doing, fill your time with you own interests, friendships and goals.
Make Her Laugh
Telling funny stories and jokes is a common way to make someone laugh, but try being different and not obvious. If you know her, maybe you would also know what would make her laugh. If you don’t, try knowing what kind of humor she likes and which are her favorite movies/sitcoms/comedians. Crack situational jokes (but don’t be mean to anyone). Play truth or dare and tell her to dare you to do anything she wants (within the boundaries of legality, of course). You both will laugh often together at little things if you are relaxed and enjoy spending time with each other.
Speak To Her
For a girl to know you exist, you need to talk to her. Go ahead, make an effort. Don’t worry about intimidating her, and don’t get intimidated! Let the conversation be friendly and discuss about her interests and see if you have anything in common that you can talk about. Then, talk about it! Polish your conversation skills if you aren’t a good talker. When you don’t understand what to talk and are stuck at some point, don’t pause. Talk about something that interests you but look out for signs of boredom. If she looks bored and uninterested, stop talking and listen to her. Get her number and text her. If she responds positively, try calling. Keep your conversations short and sweet.
Be Her Friend
Be a friend but in a non-invasive way. Start hanging-out as friends. If you happen to meet her every day, give her a smile and just say “Hi” in a friendly way. Try to figure out who your common friends are and seek help from them. Plan group hangouts as this way she will feel comfortable talking to you and the two of you can spend some time together while getting to know each other. But don’t get stuck in the ‘friend-zone’.
Flirt
Once you both are friends and things start moving forward, take the time to get to know her through friendly talks/chats. Try chatting online. When you meet the girl you like, make a brief eye contact. Smile and come up with a casual conversation. Be a little flirty and see how she reacts. If flirting seems difficult at first, don’t stress yourself up as she might be equally nervous! So, the more you talk to girls, the more confident you will become. Enjoy talking to that attractive girl whose attention you’re seeking. Make sure you don’t say things that might sound offensive as your goal is to make her like you. Always keep that in mind.
Be a Gentlemen
Be decent, but don’t overdo it. Compliment her, but not on EVERYTHING! You can’t charm a girl by just being nice all the time. There’s a thin line between being a gentleman and being boring. Don’t be too good to be true. You don’t have to dress expensive, but your style does leave an impression. Don’t use pickup lines (especially, the cheesy ones). They generally work with the kind of girls you would not want to waste your time on. Be blunt, but never hurtful. Be honest and never lie! Staying truthful shows them that they can depend on you. Tell her everything she NEEDS to hear and NOT wants to hear.
Ask Her Out
Once you are comfortable, ask her out on a date. Make sure it is something that she would look forward too. It could be a place that you visit often, where you do or have something that you are proud of. For instance, if you’re a musician, ask her if she can come to see you perform. Alternatively, if she is a mathematician, ask to read the thesis or report. If all of this sounds too personal, go out for lunch or a movie. Make her feel important, be romantic, but most importantly, BE YOURSELF.
While there are things you must do, there are things you must avoid doing. Here are a few things you can keep in mind so that you don’t scare that girl away!
All the best!
Be Confident
Confidence is a must when it comes to attracting girls. In many cases, it can overcome money and looks! But how can you be confident? By practicing. And while practicing, you might encounter failure. But with each failure you learn and grow and become more confident for the next time. Meet a lot of girls, befriend them, meet girls who share your interests and hobbies. Go out on a lot of dates. Don’t get all dreamy and assume the girl you’re going out with to be “the one” for you. Be sure that if things didn’t go well with one girl, there are many other girls out there who are looking for a guy exactly like YOU.
Look Good
If you want the girl to know that you respect her, you must respect your body first. If you come across as a sloppy bather, a sloppy eater, or a sloppy dresser, then you’re most likely a sloppy lover! Hence, hygiene and style are important aspects. Keep yourself well-groomed and in good shape. Brush your teeth daily, shave and work out regularly etc. Basic cleanliness is extremely important. Make a good first impression with the way you look. Don’t overdo anything, stay fit without being obsessive. This way you’ll be more appealing.
Have Your Own Life
If you’re still in the “friend zone”, this is very important. Girls with self-worth and a strong sense of purpose in their life (REAL girls) don’t prefer guys who don’t have a life of their own, basically, guys who cling to them and don’t give them enough space. Some girls prefer these kind of guys but for wrong reasons – either they’re needy, control freaks or simply insecure about themselves. Unless you want one of those scenarios, stay busy doing what you love doing, fill your time with you own interests, friendships and goals.
Make Her Laugh
Telling funny stories and jokes is a common way to make someone laugh, but try being different and not obvious. If you know her, maybe you would also know what would make her laugh. If you don’t, try knowing what kind of humor she likes and which are her favorite movies/sitcoms/comedians. Crack situational jokes (but don’t be mean to anyone). Play truth or dare and tell her to dare you to do anything she wants (within the boundaries of legality, of course). You both will laugh often together at little things if you are relaxed and enjoy spending time with each other.
Speak To Her
For a girl to know you exist, you need to talk to her. Go ahead, make an effort. Don’t worry about intimidating her, and don’t get intimidated! Let the conversation be friendly and discuss about her interests and see if you have anything in common that you can talk about. Then, talk about it! Polish your conversation skills if you aren’t a good talker. When you don’t understand what to talk and are stuck at some point, don’t pause. Talk about something that interests you but look out for signs of boredom. If she looks bored and uninterested, stop talking and listen to her. Get her number and text her. If she responds positively, try calling. Keep your conversations short and sweet.
Be Her Friend
Be a friend but in a non-invasive way. Start hanging-out as friends. If you happen to meet her every day, give her a smile and just say “Hi” in a friendly way. Try to figure out who your common friends are and seek help from them. Plan group hangouts as this way she will feel comfortable talking to you and the two of you can spend some time together while getting to know each other. But don’t get stuck in the ‘friend-zone’.
Flirt
Once you both are friends and things start moving forward, take the time to get to know her through friendly talks/chats. Try chatting online. When you meet the girl you like, make a brief eye contact. Smile and come up with a casual conversation. Be a little flirty and see how she reacts. If flirting seems difficult at first, don’t stress yourself up as she might be equally nervous! So, the more you talk to girls, the more confident you will become. Enjoy talking to that attractive girl whose attention you’re seeking. Make sure you don’t say things that might sound offensive as your goal is to make her like you. Always keep that in mind.
Be a Gentlemen
Be decent, but don’t overdo it. Compliment her, but not on EVERYTHING! You can’t charm a girl by just being nice all the time. There’s a thin line between being a gentleman and being boring. Don’t be too good to be true. You don’t have to dress expensive, but your style does leave an impression. Don’t use pickup lines (especially, the cheesy ones). They generally work with the kind of girls you would not want to waste your time on. Be blunt, but never hurtful. Be honest and never lie! Staying truthful shows them that they can depend on you. Tell her everything she NEEDS to hear and NOT wants to hear.
Ask Her Out
Once you are comfortable, ask her out on a date. Make sure it is something that she would look forward too. It could be a place that you visit often, where you do or have something that you are proud of. For instance, if you’re a musician, ask her if she can come to see you perform. Alternatively, if she is a mathematician, ask to read the thesis or report. If all of this sounds too personal, go out for lunch or a movie. Make her feel important, be romantic, but most importantly, BE YOURSELF.
While there are things you must do, there are things you must avoid doing. Here are a few things you can keep in mind so that you don’t scare that girl away!
- Don’t talk too much.
- Don’t pick your nose.
- Don’t chew your food with an open mouth .
- Don’t harm animals.
- Don’t stalk her. If she doesn’t want to date you, move on to another girl.
- Don’t use these tips just to have sex with girls.
All the best!
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