You see a woman on the other side of the room who really catches your eye.
She seems to be having a good time, but it doesn’t seem as though she is taken.
You definitely want to make your move and try to pick her up, but you also want
to make sure that you don’t make the wrong move that backfires in your face. How
do you know what exactly to do to make her say yes? Well, every woman is
different of course, but there are certain things which work almost universally
on every woman and definitely increase your chances of success.
Don’t make the obvious stupid mistakes
You have to avoid making obvious and stupid mistakes that could blow the whole thing for you in a matter of seconds. First of all, you cannot show interest in her and other women at the same time. A guy who notices a girl and her attractive friends is going to be stretching himself too thin and will repel both groups by trying to flirt with both of them. Women do not want to feel like they are just an option among other women, even if that is how you feel about the situation. Rather, you need to focus in on one of the women and make her the focus of all of your energies. If you can make her feel special, you are much more likely to pick her up.
Make eye contact
Before approaching a woman, it is important to try to make eye contact with her. There are a lot of non verbal cues that human beings give to one another which we are all able to understand. Those few seconds of eye contact can give a lot of information about how the two of you feel towards one another. If she holds her gaze for more than a second or two, you will know that she is at least interested in talking to you. You will also want to look to see if she smiles at you as well. If she does, this is obviously another good sign that you should approach her. That smile in particular is key to knowing that she is very interested in what you have to say.
Approach her and speak with confidence
You want to approach her with confidence, but not cockiness or “swag”. A woman wants to feel as though the man that she is about to speak with is confident in himself and his life, but not that he feels that he has the ability to get any woman to go home with him. Rather, she wants to feel special that she has been selected by this prince charming, and that is how he should want to make her feel as well.
It is best to maintain eye contact when speaking to her and make her feel as though she is the only woman in the room. It is not so important that you lay it on thick with the compliments of “you’re beautiful” or “you have nice eyes”. Rather, it is best to let her know that you are attracted to her by being genuinely interested in what she has to say. She doesn’t need to hear about how sexy her body is if you can show her how you feel about her through your body language.
Do not use cheesy pick up lines
They are known as being cheesy lines for a reason. No matter what a woman says, she really does not want to hear the same old lines over and over again. Some women say that they find them cute, but at this point they have probably heard them all before and then some. It is better to try to be original and not use any preplanned lines. It is good to be relaxed and simply speak as though you were speaking to someone that you were already pretty comfortable with.
Do not just try to pick her up at bars and clubs
Perhaps bars and clubs are the places where you find yourself primarily meeting women, but this should not be the only place that you are going to meet them at. Instead, you need to also try to approach women in other venues. The bar and club scene can get a bit boring after a while when you tend to run into the same types of people all the time. It is far better to try to meet women who may have different interests.
Bars and clubs are places where women are expecting to be hit on, but other places are a little different. Most women do not expect that someone is going to approach them while they are at the grocery store or the zoo. If you feel that you can pull off a successful approach of a women in one of these places, then you might have a pretty good chance of picking her up.
Walk away
In the end, you have to know when to walk away from the conversation. You may have had a great conversation with a woman, and everything may have been a total success, but you still have to walk away at some point. You do not want to seem as though you are being too clingy with her, and she will likely feel this way if you just keep lurking around. She may want to talk to other people as well, and you cannot try to monopolize all of her time.
Take your win and walk away from the table. If you really did as well as you think you did, then you will probably see that the woman comes up to you at a later time and tries to talk to you some more. If this is the case, then you have probably accomplished everything that you were trying to do, and you can be happy about this. If this is the way that things play out, then it is safe to say that you have successfully picked her up or will very soon.
Don’t make the obvious stupid mistakes
You have to avoid making obvious and stupid mistakes that could blow the whole thing for you in a matter of seconds. First of all, you cannot show interest in her and other women at the same time. A guy who notices a girl and her attractive friends is going to be stretching himself too thin and will repel both groups by trying to flirt with both of them. Women do not want to feel like they are just an option among other women, even if that is how you feel about the situation. Rather, you need to focus in on one of the women and make her the focus of all of your energies. If you can make her feel special, you are much more likely to pick her up.
Make eye contact
Before approaching a woman, it is important to try to make eye contact with her. There are a lot of non verbal cues that human beings give to one another which we are all able to understand. Those few seconds of eye contact can give a lot of information about how the two of you feel towards one another. If she holds her gaze for more than a second or two, you will know that she is at least interested in talking to you. You will also want to look to see if she smiles at you as well. If she does, this is obviously another good sign that you should approach her. That smile in particular is key to knowing that she is very interested in what you have to say.
Approach her and speak with confidence
You want to approach her with confidence, but not cockiness or “swag”. A woman wants to feel as though the man that she is about to speak with is confident in himself and his life, but not that he feels that he has the ability to get any woman to go home with him. Rather, she wants to feel special that she has been selected by this prince charming, and that is how he should want to make her feel as well.
It is best to maintain eye contact when speaking to her and make her feel as though she is the only woman in the room. It is not so important that you lay it on thick with the compliments of “you’re beautiful” or “you have nice eyes”. Rather, it is best to let her know that you are attracted to her by being genuinely interested in what she has to say. She doesn’t need to hear about how sexy her body is if you can show her how you feel about her through your body language.
Do not use cheesy pick up lines
They are known as being cheesy lines for a reason. No matter what a woman says, she really does not want to hear the same old lines over and over again. Some women say that they find them cute, but at this point they have probably heard them all before and then some. It is better to try to be original and not use any preplanned lines. It is good to be relaxed and simply speak as though you were speaking to someone that you were already pretty comfortable with.
Do not just try to pick her up at bars and clubs
Perhaps bars and clubs are the places where you find yourself primarily meeting women, but this should not be the only place that you are going to meet them at. Instead, you need to also try to approach women in other venues. The bar and club scene can get a bit boring after a while when you tend to run into the same types of people all the time. It is far better to try to meet women who may have different interests.
Bars and clubs are places where women are expecting to be hit on, but other places are a little different. Most women do not expect that someone is going to approach them while they are at the grocery store or the zoo. If you feel that you can pull off a successful approach of a women in one of these places, then you might have a pretty good chance of picking her up.
Walk away
In the end, you have to know when to walk away from the conversation. You may have had a great conversation with a woman, and everything may have been a total success, but you still have to walk away at some point. You do not want to seem as though you are being too clingy with her, and she will likely feel this way if you just keep lurking around. She may want to talk to other people as well, and you cannot try to monopolize all of her time.
Take your win and walk away from the table. If you really did as well as you think you did, then you will probably see that the woman comes up to you at a later time and tries to talk to you some more. If this is the case, then you have probably accomplished everything that you were trying to do, and you can be happy about this. If this is the way that things play out, then it is safe to say that you have successfully picked her up or will very soon.
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